“Though the mountains be shaken and the hills removed, yet my unfailing love for you will not be shaken nor my covenant of peace be removed,” says the Lord, who has compassion on you.” Isaiah 54:10
When life gets hard, and it does, we all feel the effects of things being shaken up.
Sometimes it shows up in the wee hours of the morning when you’re lying awake and you can’t stop the swirling thoughts in your mind that leave you doubting — am I enough, does God really love me, why do I feel so alone?
Other times it may show up in your relationships, when you find yourself lashing out from the pain in your heart or shut down because no matter what you say or do, it just isn’t working. In the midst of those times, it helps to have someone compassionately walk with you and your loved ones. God’s love and peace often come through the support we receive from others.
You, your wellbeing and your relationships matter to me. It’s good something in you has reached out. Whether it’s your desire for something more, you’re navigating a bump in the road, or you find yourself in some distress, I’m glad it’s brought you here. You don’t have to be in this alone.
Here you will find a safe place to be real with your challenges. It can be vulnerable to share the significant parts of our lives and it takes courage to allow ourselves to be known. I’m here to accept you unconditionally, partner collaboratively with what you really want, and walk compassionately with you as you get there. I believe in your good heart and trust God’s spirit at work in you.
Life is relationship and good relationship is life.
We are always in relationship — with ourselves, with God and with others. As a marriage and family therapist, I want to nurture all of those relationships. My passion and work is to help couples, families and individuals experience healing and strengthening so they are better able to enjoy their freedom to:
— love more effectively
— receive love more easily
— connect more deeply
— experience more well-being.
How I work with couples, families and individuals:
I have a warm, friendly style that is both gentle and straightforward. I understand we’re all just human, and I believe we all do better when we have strong support, a safe place to be ourselves, and someone to help us build up or build in positive relational skills.
You may find yourself saying, “I didn’t realize that about myself.” You will find yourself encouraged and surprised by the strengths you already have as I seek to build up who God created you to be. It is good. I know you are already doing so many things well.
You also might say, “That’s really helpful. I didn’t know how to do that before.” I also build in to you and your relationships. I help you get insight and understanding. We’ll also get very practical and specific in things that will help you grow in the goals you set.
I work empathically with mind, heart, body, and spirit. You can expect me to help you attune to your own and your loved one’s mental, emotional, physiological and spiritual responses. The significance of this is great. It often is like discovering a buried key that opens the door to a lush garden of wellbeing.
I seek to make therapy experiential and active with a dash of lightheartedness. We learn and grow better when all of who we are is engaged. And fun fact: Did you know that when you include playfulness in your interactions, it reduces the number of needed repetitions to get new wiring in our brains from 400 to 12!
And yes, I am a neuroscience geek. I have spent the last 10 plus years studying and applying the latest neuroscience and attachment research. I have passionately enjoyed understanding how God created our brains and bodies to work and how we can connect, or attach, with one another more securely. I use education and brain building methods based on current brain/attachment research to create relational connection and wire in changes at the actual brain circuitry level. This change goes beyond just trying harder.
What will we do in therapy?
As we start out, I will listen and seek to understand you, your background, your relationships and what you want. We will attend to the things that are important to each of you involved in therapy. Everyone will have the chance to be heard, valued, and understood. Together we’ll I seek to understand the root of the issue as well as understand the breadth of the issue and factors affecting it. Together we will set goals that are meaningful to you.
As we go along, I will carefully monitor to keep everyone in a zone of being stretched but not to the point of being overloaded. I understand therapy can be uncomfortable at times.
I will check in with you periodically to make sure we go at a pace that works for you.
I will give you lots of opportunity to experiment and try things out. That includes in sessions as well as at home.
I see the work I do with people as collaborative with God and each other, because we’re all in this together.
Your Invitation in Therapy.
We’ve all heard it said that what you put into something is what you’ll get out of it. That’s true for therapy as well. Therapy is not only an investment of time and finances, but an investment of yourself in you and your relationships. Your invitation is to get as much out of it as you want to.
This is a safe space to be authentic, to explore and to connect. I welcome you to share as deeply and vulnerably as you feel comfortable. You are welcome to let me know what is working or not working, what you like or don’t like, what you want more of and what you want less of. You are invited to be fully present and engaged. Many people find themselves looking forward to this time.
Professional Qualifications and Experience.
I earned my MA in counseling from Colorado Christian University in 1998. In 1999 my family and I moved overseas where I provided therapy and training to missionaries and local ministry leaders. In 2009, the year we moved to Malaysia, I discovered Coaching and became an ICF certified coach and professional coach trainer.
While in Malaysia, I helped establish a member care center where I provided therapy and coaching for missionaries, expats and locals.
In 2015, our family moved back to the US. During that time I began a specialization and certification in Marriage and Family Therapy and provided therapy at Denver Family Institute. In August 2017 I earned my MFT.
I have a background in English Literature and Education and I taught secondary English as well as ESL both in the US and overseas.
I’ve lived cross-culturally starting more than 25 years ago and have worked in 4 different countries — Tibet, Nepal, Malaysia, and now the US. I have extensive experience working cross-culturally, with missionaries and with ministry leaders. I understand the added stress and realities that come with transition and serving abroad.
Personal Life and Interests.
I married my husband, Gill in 1991 and our life serving overseas began 9 months later when we moved to Tibet. We still look fondly back on our “honeymoon” in Tibet where we truly bonded as we lived together in rustic conditions (i.e. no indoor plumbing, outhouse 100 yards across the field, the only heat indoors was from the sunlight through the windows).
We’ve enjoyed many adventures together throughout Asia and beyond. We’ve eaten crazy things like yak lung, sea slug, hornets, and turtle. We’ve had incredible experiences like bathing elephants, feeding wild rhinos, holding sea otters, and cuddling with kangaroos.
One of our greatest joys has been the privilege of working closely with folks from other parts of the world.
I’m mother to three wonderful children. I have one still at home, and two grown, with one of them married. We were blessed to have our third child join our family through adoption. She spices up our lives with her outgoing personality.
I love God’s beautiful creation, and taking a long walk in the great outdoors soothes my soul. I also enjoy a good day at home hanging out and relaxing.