Ryan Hambley, MA-Level Counseling Intern
“We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” –Marianne Williamson
Philosophy and Therapeutic Approach
I am complex. You are complex. People are complex. Each of us is made up of many parts: biological self, psychological self, social self, and spiritual self. At times in each of our lives, these parts become shattered, lost, and disconnected. The result of dis-integration of these parts intensifies pain and makes life even more difficult. A downward spiral, negative self-soothing, and unfulfilled aching ensues. As I have been met in my journey, I will work hard to meet you in yours with compassion, understanding, and positive regard.
Relationships are complex too. We relate biologically, psychologically, socially, and spiritually with God, self, and others. We are relational creatures. When relationships are functioning in a healthy manner, the difficulties of life are more manageable. While the therapeutic relationship between a counselor and client is not a typical relationship, my goal is to create a safe and realistic space where clients can practice new mindsets, feelings, and behaviors in the counseling room, so that he or she can adopt them in his or her life outside.
Gaining insight to oneself and in relation to others begins to re-integrate the separated parts. I aim to be a soundboard and participant in your telling of your story. With new mindsets, feelings, and behaviors, we begin to tell our story differently as we journey to our most healthy, integrated self. My theoretical orientation is an amalgam of integration, REBT, and existential.
What to Expect During Therapy?
I will listen to you. Because we are relational beings, you can expect that I want to relate to you first. I want to hear how you tell your story. I want to listen to the different parts of you with reverence and empathy. I want to hear you in context of your culture.
I will advocate for you. Sometimes our worst enemy is ourselves. I will aim to carefully challenge you when I notice that you are beating yourself up. I will offer ways to think and behave differently. You are valuable. Sometimes I may not be the person you need. That’s okay. We each have different giftings and graces. When I feel like I am not the best person to meet your needs, I will let you know. This is about you…not me.
I will respect your humanity. We all have thought, felt, and behaved in ways that are not congruent to our values. There is no place for shame in my sphere of influence. You can expect nothing but acceptance of where you are in your life.
Personal Qualifications and Experience
I am slated to graduate Denver Seminary in the spring of 2020 with a M.A. in Counseling with an emphasis in Clinical Mental Health and School Counseling. In 2008, I graduated from Texas Christian University with B.A. in Middle School Math Education. I am certified in Prepare and Enrich, a pre-marital counseling methodology.
Before interning at Cornerstone Christian Counseling, I was a seventh grade
middle school math teacher in Houston, Texas, serving predominately Black and Latino populations. Most recently, I counseled for one semester at Shepherd’s Gate Counseling Center, interned for a semester in Lakewood High School’s counseling department, and another semester in Euclid Middle School’s counseling department.
Personal Life and Interests
In 2016, my bride and I moved to Denver to start our degrees. She has a M.A. in Justice and Missions from Denver Seminary. One semester into our programs, we got married. Currently, my wife and I are pregnant, and our little girl is due in September of 2019. My wife and I have a goal of doing an escape room in every state. Currently we have done over 30, including one in Alaska. I enjoy doing anything with friends including board games, adventure races, and playing volleyball.
My wife and I attend Passionate Life Church, where we serve weekly on the
prayer team or apparel team. We have led life groups that have included: “Identity” and “Mental Health Matters.” We love growing where we are planted.